Best Twin Flame Separation Tips and Tricks
Twin Flame Separation
This is a special time in the twin flame journey.
You probably hate it the most and are feeling the worst you’ve ever felt. I once had a client who previously lost a spouse to cancer and she said her twin flame separation felt worse than that.
So please validate yourself that you are in a very painful spot. You aren’t making this up, and you shouldn’t just be able to snap your fingers and get over it. This could take years.
Common twin flame separation symptoms include:
Obsessive thoughts
Uncontrollable crying
An increase in addictive behaviors
Feeling like you don’t want to live anymore
Complete despair
Stress headaches
Loss of appetite
Feeling like you lost a part of your body
Feeling like no point in going on in life if you can’t be together (if you are having suicidal thoughts please contact a mental health professional)
Seeing little to no joy in your life in the future if they don’t come back
Strategizing different ways to get them back
Anger at whoever or whatever situation is keeping you guys apart
Spending large amounts of time trying to get them back
Blocking and unblocking them
Trying to open the communication again just to feel them
Swinging from hope of reunion to no hope
Trying to date others, only to get home and cry
Experiencing twin flame telepathy with no boundaries
Crying after sex or masturbation
Seeing their name and special numbers and songs everywhere
Paying psychics and healers for messages and cleansings (and feeling more confused after)
Hiding pain from friends and loved ones because of shame
Hail Mary attempts to get them back
Telling yourself you can just be friends
Low self-esteem from watching them move on
Obsessively checking their (and their friends/family) social media for any sign of life
Separation pushes us to these very dark places. We felt the high and now we have to go low.
Spirit brought you together with chemistry and incredible synchronizations.
Then spirit pulls you apart. For a good reason. I’ve seen this in all my clients.
This is where the work begins. Finding all the places in yourself that need healing.
Ways to start healing a twin flame connection:
Mirror work:
Notice they are your mirror. What you don’t like in them in something you have disowned in yourself. How you judge them says something about your inner darker parts. This doesn’t mean you should be yourself up and feel shame. It’s kind of like a map that help you know where to look inside.
He won’t commit to me - I won’t commit to myself - my dreams, finding healthy love etc
He needs to get sober - I need to get sober from thinking about him and start living my life.
She needs to be nice to me - I need to be nice to me and set boundaries
Inner Child Work:
Take the good feelings you felt in the beginning and make a list. This helps you to see what your inner child needs from YOU. Did they make you feel at home? Good you need to find ways to make your inner child to feel at home.
Other common feelings include - safety, excitement, spiritually connect etc. There are parts of you that are craving to feel this and connect with you.
The more you want them - The more your inner child is screaming for you to pay attention to her/him. Try it. Spend time with your inner child and feel how the pull towards your twin is more manageable.
Create More Love in the World
Volunteer - work with children, animals, unhoused, etc. Help your friends or family in a pure way. Get outside of your darkness. If the whole point of a twin is to increase love on the planet, do it. You don’t need your twin to expand and bring a unique frequency of love to the earth.
Life Changes Work
In separation you can finally start making big changes in your life. Your life has to wow you.
Get that divorce. Change jobs. Find real friends. Get into nature.
With a twin gone you have no choice but to find joy in life. You also now have time and space. You also have nothing else to lose. You’ve already “lost” the most important thing to you. Might as well get crazy ;)
Let your current life and your limiting beliefs die out.
Spiritual Gifts Work
Nothing is more motivating to learn about your spiritual gifts than a twin flame separation. You can use this time to work on checking on their energy. Sending them healing, connecting to their higher self etc. I hope you also use this time to send yourself some healing. I always advise clients to take a course in reiki or anything that interests them. With hypnosis you are able to work on your gifts and it is much easier to connect with your twin in a hypnotic state.
Past Life Work
You could be processing the pain of different versions of yourself. I’ve had clients who are still holding on to the pain and grieving the last time their twin hurt them in a previous life. Past life work through hypnosis helps us understand the bigness of these connections and can explain why we are so drawn to our twin. You can also get a sense that even if you aren’t together in this life time, you might be in the next and there are so many lives to live. Missing one isn’t going to kill you. It might be a nice break ha.
Work with a Coach/ Therapist / Counselor
Many people find their way into counseling of some sort because of their twin. Not all therapists will understand the spiritual side of what you are going through, but it is important to seek out help. You will move through your pain quickly and learn so much about yourself. Twin flames need to be addressed on spiritual and psychological levels. I offer coaching; however, I am not a therapist. Our work in twin flame coaching is a great complement to your work with a licensed therapist. If you find yourself suicidal please reach out to your local mental health agency, tell a trusted friend and get some support.
A combination of all these ways to start healing will be the most effective and give you the best chances of finding peace and possibly reuniting with your twin (although we can’t know if that is for the highest good for all).
I use all of these in my coaching and twin flame hypnosis sessions.
I hope you believe in yourself during this process. Let yourself fall apart, but always keep your heart open. It’s not an easy road and only those who have walked it can understand without judgment.
Know you can always reach out to me. It’s a personal goal of mine to make sure no one has to sit alone in their twin flame struggles. We are meant to work together to heal.
