Strategies that DO Work in a Twin Flame Separation

Last time we talked about what doesn’t work on the twin flame journey. This week I’ll share with you what has worked for me and clients to get clarity on if their twin is going to come back for reunion (and if they want it), how to move through pain, heal their inner child, stop obsessive thoughts, and get their life back on track.  

These strategies will help you find your center, get your power back, and learn more about yourself on this journey. They also reduce obsessive thoughts, depression, and anxiety. Will they bring your twin flame closer to you? I can not guarantee that, but you have no choice but to find some peace on this journey.

What DOES work:

Any new strategy that you teach your inner child to learn how to love in a healthy way… Not strategies you learned in childhood - which the twin flame default repeats and pulls you back to

Parts work in a deep meditative state (hypnosis) that connects you to your spirit and body, not just obsessive thoughts and logical brain

Approaching the situation on a spiritual AND psychological level

Validating all your feelings and stopping the war between your head and heart

Being open to NEVER understanding why they can’t be with you. Staying stuck in “research mode” paralysis you and eventually drives you mad. Life is full of mysteries.

Figuring out if your heart/soul wanting something is actually your inner child

Finding support outside of your thoughts, blogs, and tarot readings

Understanding the psychology of your twin’s wounds and realistic timelines for their healing. Avoidants in active therapy take time (as in years) to heal. Let them practice on someone else.

Looking inwards at your wounds and blind spots (extreme hope, inner child pain, etc) and why you would be attracted to such a painful relationship

Being bold in expressing your needs and desires to get more data on if they want what you want or can give you what you need and why/why not

If you don’t feel good enough for your twin, that is usually a feeling they disowned about themselves

You must look beyond mixed signals to feel into what they are actually capable of giving you.

Separating their beauty as a soul vs their actual behavior as a human

Recognizing there are many soul connections for you in this lifetime, even if it doesn’t feel like it today. Life wouldn’t give you the only shot at happiness wrapped in a person who is avoidant of love.

There are many lifetimes to come. You might not fulfill it all this life time with them.

Turning your pain into creation and helping and healing the world

Deeply respecting and seeing the wisdom in their need for space and the level of relationship they can safely tolerate

Being open to pivoting along the journey. What was once very certain will change and you must allow them to change their mind.

There are so many trails on this giant mountain climb that is finding your power and identity after meeting your twin flame. These are just some of the things that make the climb easier.