Signs Your Twin Flame Really Does Love You - Twin Flame Meaning
I remember spending hours and days wondering if my twin really loved me.
I was worried I was fooling myself. That I was just an idiot. I was always so logical about Love until my twin rocked my world.
I needed proof. I hunted day and night.
Anytime I would see him interact with another girl or like another girl’s post. I would know he didn’t love me.
When he wouldn’t return my text or would cancel plans last minute. I knew he didn’t love me.
When he would hurt me, disrespect me, ignore me. I knew it wasn’t love.
But when he would touch me, look at me, and kiss me. I knew it was. I would dream of him or see his name in the most unusual places and I knew it was love. I knew
I knew at my soul level I loved him. But did he love me?
Signs Your Twin Loves You:
They keep in contact. They never let you go too far without being in contact somehow.
You feel it in their touch.
They say “I love you.”
They make future plans.
They don’t respond to texts.
They don’t tell you they love you.
They hurt you by dating other people: you know they aren’t that interested.
They won’t leave their current unhappy relationship for you.
They can’t spend that much time with you for whatever reason.
My twin did a lot of these to me, and I see this in most of my coaching clients.
I tortured myself. I eventually stopped telling my friends, because I was so back and forth. Shamefully, I would put myself back in the position of trying to be with him even if that meant forgetting or glossing over huge red flags. It was love.
Then one day I decided I was done torturing myself, and I thought, “you know what, I don’t care if I look foolish. He loves me. End of story.”
And that was that. I felt at ease and at peace.
With twin flames, it’s more like you are dealing with a toddler, and you are the mom. The toddler is going to probably hit you, cry, ignore you, run away, hate you, not hug you when you want. But you know, they love you, they need you, you are connected. Same with your twin.
So relax a bit. Don’t take their pain, actions, and silence personally.
You have to remember too that not all people can handle happiness and love. People with avoidant attachment issues, low self-esteem/ low self-worth, might run before they can truly feel love or they are probably avoiding disappointing you. Love and happiness can be very scary for many people. It can mean they will lose themselves, they will have to take care of you at any cost, you’ll get to know them and leave them anyway, etc. The avoidant’s mind can be instantly flooded with some of the worst thoughts.
You can not base your twin’s feelings on ACTIONs alone.
Okay, they love you, but now what?
Are they capable of meeting your relationship needs here on earth?
This is what matters more than if they feel the same or not.
We are trying to find something totally aligned - they love us and they can demonstrate and follow through with that love here on earth.
For most of us, we grew up in a house where our parents actually had a lot of loving feelings towards us. Most likely there were quite a bit of loving actions (we were fed, etc), but we didn’t FEEL loved for who we were. So this gets mirrored in a twin flame dynamic. This disconnect of someone loving you deeply, but can’t show it in a way that is healthy.
With a twin flame separation (which is probably where you are now or headed towards one), we are forced to try to make sense of our journey and have to sit alone with some hard feelings. They take with them all the joy and happiness. It sends us into a spiral that will probably be the hardest experience of your life, especially if the separation goes on for more than a month.
This forces us to dig deep. This is the inner work people talk about on this journey. Who are you if the “other half of your soul” doesn’t text you back, chooses to stay with their married partner, can’t move, or doesn’t believe in monogamy?
Be love. Be bigger than this worldly, human crap. Be unconditional love, all-knowing love. Unconditional love doesn’t mean you allow them to treat you however they want without consequences. I used to love my twin so unconditionally, I let him not respond to me for months and not even ask why or let him know how it made me feel. Yikes!
You two have already opened a portal of love energy. You can’t close it. You can only take it for your own (something we do in hypnosis). So even if they love you, but can’t be with you, you’ve used that portal as it was destined to be used - to create more love in the world.
Don’t make their world and their decisions more important than your own. Easier said than done I know.
It can be really healing to hear from spirit why they are treating you the way they are. This is something we almost always touch on in a twin flame hypnosis session. Understanding helps us heal.
Start asking why is it exactly I want to be in an adult relationship with them? Make a list. Put it on paper. Match it up to your dream guy/ girl.
List the ways you love them. And not just “I always text them right back. I never run away.” Can you list things like “I’m always honest with my feelings? I always share my authentic self. I don’t hold back half-truths or lie. I don’t put on a front. I take care of myself. I regulate my moods. I keep my life full and interesting. I get vulnerable with them. I am warm and open.”
When you love someone, you don’t do all things just for them. That is an outdated way to love. That is an exchange system.
When you truly love someone, sometimes you have to say no or walk away. You have to set up boundaries. You have to disappoint them and yourself (goodbye vision of your future).
Think of the toddler. If you love your small child you get them to eat real food, then a dessert. You make them go to bed when they don’t want to. Because you need a break and they need their rest.
When you love someone you also have to listen to them. Often with twin flames, we don’t listen. We want to hear what we want to hear.
They don’t want to be in a relationship with us. (ask first! Don’t assume). They say no. But we still hang on. We think they are just a runner, they are in denial etc. I wasted 4 years of my life thinking our love and connection was so great, he would eventually change his mind. He did not.
No, sometimes they aren’t interested in a relationship. It’s not the life path they want to take right now.
Don’t take it personally, but do listen and do respect them. Love them.
You must put your needs over the connection. It feels like all your needs will be met once you get in the connection, but that isn’t true of any connection - mother/baby, husband/wife, etc. This is what they mean by self love and the twin flame journey. Can you put your needs for safety and healthy love over a twin flame that is inconsistent and unsure about being committed?
Can they trust you that you will do what is best for you? Or can they only trust you will do anything to keep them around?
If you need some insight or help with understanding the confusing way your twin loves you, please get in touch with me about doing a coaching or hypnosis session. I started doing these because I was so alone in my twin journey. I don’t want anyone else to feel or alone or waste years in pain! 555 1111 444 2222
